Making Friends

Meeting people is easy, but making friends is hard. Spending time together doesn't mean having to go out for drinks either… I remember my cousin used to call me and say, "Hey, what are you doing right now?" and I'd say, "Nothing!" so he'd laugh and say, "Well, why don't you come over so we can do nothing together!?" which was always more fun than doing nothing alone. Sometimes we just sat around and listened to music, but fast forward to twenty years later, and those are my fondest memories of us living eight blocks away from one another!

He called me one day and I was in a relationship at the time, so when he asked what I was doing I replied, "Oh.. I'm not sure what we're doing tonight…" That's when he barked at me, "I didn't ask what BOTH of you were doing.. I asked what YOU were doing!!! Are you connected at the hip or something?!"

That's when I realized that I had stopped doing stuff on my own whenever I was in a relationship… how and why did that happen??? 

I think it's actually healthy to have friends outside of relationships; it puts less pressure on our significant others to have to be our EVERYTHING, and it promotes healthy friendships with others at the same time. 

How much easier would it be if we were okay with our loved ones having different hobbies from us, a few friends to spend quality time with, and give ourselves permission to go out to a movie or to a restaurant of our choice without having to run it by somebody else first?!

So don't wait for others to be friendly… show them how. I think we're always under the impression that everyone already has enough friends (and that we'd somehow be intruding or appear needy if we suggest hanging out sometime), but in reality a lot of people would welcome new friendships into their lives. 

Next time you're doing "nothing", consider doing nothing with somebody else :)

A stranger is simply a friend you haven't met yet.